Welcome to Kamasati
The art & science of mindful relationships
We are here to help you explore, discover & communicate your needs, wants & boundaries so that you can have happier, more successful and fulfilling relationships.
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Needs, Wants & Boundaries
Kamasati is founded on a simple, yet extremely effective model of relationships:
- Wants add to our happiness, however we do not become unhappy if they are lacking.
- If we are lacking Needs we become unhappy -- leading to a relationship breakdown.
- Boundaries are the opposites of needs, they are things that we simply can’t accomodate in a relationship. It is our job to enforce our own boundaries.
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Needs compatibility
We can compromise our wants, and any relationship requires a degree of compromise.
However, we should not compromise our needs or boundaries: Needs incompatibility is just as real as incompatible plumbing or living on the opposite side of the planet.
Being in a relationship with incompatible needs will inevitably lead to breakdown, often following a lot of suffering if it is dragged out.
Working together
We believe that the best relationships are ones that work together as a team to maximise each others' needs & wants.
This can only happen if everyone in the relationship understands and can express their needs, wants & boundaries.
Understanding our Needs, Wants & Boundaries
This is why understanding our needs, wants & boundaries leads us to more satisfying, fulfilling and successful relationships.
The challenge for most of us is that we can't express what our needs and wants are -- often, because we don't yet know them ourselves.
As our needs can change as we develop, understanding our needs & wants is a process of ongoing exploration & discovery.
Different needs for different types of relationships
Being the complex creatures that we are, we have different needs in different types of relationships -- family, co-parenting, friendships, romantic, sexual, cohabitation... What may be a need in one type of relationship, might be a want for another.
As an example:
- In my romantic relationships, I need romantic intimacy.
- In my sexual relationships, I need intimacy (trust) -- but it doesn't have to be romantic intimacy.
About our mission
This is the problem that Kamasati was created to solve: Helping you explore, discover & communicate your needs & wants so that you can have happier, more successful and fulfilling relationships.
In the future, we hope to help match people to others who are compatible with their needs.
Our mission is: increasing global happiness through better relationships for all!
About the name
The term "kamasati" is a compound word combining the hindu term "kama" (love, and emotional fulfillment) and the buddhist term: "sati" (mindfulness or awareness).
It's important to note that "kamasati" is not a standard term in traditional Buddhist texts.